Watch Out! It will return to you!

There you are; human nature in action, wrongdoers, blaming everybody but themselves. We are all like that. So when you and I are tempted to criticize someone tomorrow, lets remember…let’s realize that criticisms are like homing pigeons. They always return home. Let’s realize that the person we are going to correct and condemn will probably justify himself or herself, and condemn us in return.…

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Unconvincing

If you criticize another person inappropriately, are you sure you will be able to persuade him to correct his wrong, or you will just help him strive more to justify himself and reiterate with resentment in his heart?

Temporary Effect

B. F. Skinner, the world-famous psychologist, proved through his experiments that an animal rewarded for good behavior will learn much more rapidly and retain what it learns far more effectively than an animal punished for bad behavior.

Later studies have shown that the same applies to humans. By criticizing, we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.

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Wanamaker

John Wanamaker, founder of the stores that bear his name, once confessed: “I learned thirty years ago that it is foolish to scold. I have enough trouble overcoming my own limitations without fretting over the fact that God has not seen fit to distribute evenly the gift of intelligence.

Wanamaker learned this lesson early, but I personally had to blunder through this old world for a third of a century before it even dawned upon me that ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don’t criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be.

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